You’ve got ‘em. Let’s hear ‘em. If not for you, for me.
You may already have heard or seen that things haven’t been going that well for me ever since I opened up new spots on Team Diet Crusher. (Truth be told, things weren’t going that well with the Original Team Diet Crusher, the Fab 4 Ashley Inzer, Deanna Lohnes, Linda Eaves and Sandi Faviell Amorim, now they’re not going well on a much grander scale.
I’ve really gone ahead and done it now, I extended an invitation, and 13 new Crushers have joined us. El Edwards, Alma McKinley, Christi Jarland, Alexia Petrakos, Anne Melnyk, Elizabeth Broadfoot, Deb Smith, Angel Sullivan, Kirsty Hall, Rachel Kersten, Skaja Wills, Joanna Saunders, and Maureen Carruthers. (Please don’t read this list of names and the names of the Fab 4 and start lecturing me about working with women who are forces of nature, and to be reckoned with, and what did I expect, I brought this on myself. What’s done is done. Let’s not waste precious time belaboring my shortsightedness.)
Which brings us to why I’m reaching out to you; I’ve gotten myself in a spot. (Maybe you didn’t wake up this morning with that as the first thing on your to-do list, but I’m hoping after you hear my plight, you will help. It can be your random act of kindness for the day, for sure.)
The Team uses the Effindiets Facebook field to run their diet crushing drills. One of my responsibilities as the coach is to keep the field clean so they can run the aforementioned drills.
I’m having a lot of trouble keeping up with the field maintenance.
I have a huge picture window in my office in the Diet Crushing Clubhouse that faces the field, and although we haven’t even started “officially” crushing, I’m sitting there trying to get the office work done, and the amount of food that the Team is fumbling and “forgetting” to eat is just piling up. It’s making me nervous, all the food they’re leaving, and with seemingly so little regard for all of the great reasons there are to eat when you’re not hungry. (Know what I mean? Let’s hope so.) I keep telling this Team that I am just. one. person. (And, yes, I could close the blinds, but I don’t want to just bury my head in the sand on this. I want to get ahead of the problem as it seems to be growing worse, and if I don’t get a handle on it now, I’ll just have a bunch of eating-stoppers on my hands.)
You can see what I’m talking about for yourself. How I made one simple request of the Team – you’d have to agree – and then I went back to what I was doing in the office thinking I’ve effectively handled things, and then this is what they come back and tell me is happening with them and food.
I suspect this problem might go even deeper, with each and every one of them, so I am reaching out for your help. If you are a Crusher reading this, feel free to start helping yourself here, before you’re past the point of no return to eating because you’re physically hungry, more often than not.
Here’s how you can help, and why it’s so important. Imagine how dangerous it will be for the rest of us if this kind of thing continues, unchecked. If women – the kind who feel like they are entitled to have what they want to eat, and then that they can stop eating because the have a (misguided) sense that they can have more later if they want it – continue on that kind of path. And not just individually, but collectively.
Take a look at my field, you’ll get a sense of the kind of disaster that is impending if woman who have the touch for “I’ve had enough” and “this is what I want, not that” are allowed to proliferate. No one wants that.
Once you see what I’m talking about, I’m sure you’ll appreciate the magnitude of what we’re facing with all that food just piling up.
(And please don’t be fooled by the Team’s apologies when you read them. My experience so far is when it comes to what I ask a Crusher to do with food, is that they’re all talk, no action.)
You can help me change this!! If I can just get them to eat non-stop, I can reclaim my life from this abysmal chore of food raking. (One of the reasons why I’m raising the rates the next time, beyond the fact that the introductory offer is going to be over, is going to be because of all of the field equipment I go through. And the rising costs to keep me in Icy Hot and chiropractors and massage therapists. Oh! Speaking of that, check this out, you’ll love it! One very kind Crusher started throwing the food she’s been leaving in a bin that’s on the field, so yeah, that was very thoughtful and a great idea since it will save on my shoulder sprains for raking, but it will also mean I’ll need to get bins with everyone’s # on them so I can keep track of the worst culprits on the Team, and then I’m still dealing with the bins.)
There’s a better way. Please help me out in the comments. What are your good reasons for eating when you’re not hungry. I’m going to copy some of the comments from a post I wrote about these advantages called Not So Fast There, Slim, to get us started. (In case you need help because you’re like them.)
Thanks in advance for your help on this!
P.S. Here’s someone I’m careful not to thank… Life Coach Tim Brownson. He’s the one who suggested, among other things, that if was really interested in my business, I’d hightail it over to Twitter and Facebook. Ahem. (You’ll want to watch out for him, he comes up #1 for Life Coaches if you Google him, I’m not the only one to be caught in his dangerous web of influence. And he’s a raging philanthropist, so I remain puzzled at how he finds all the time he does to unstick people via Life Coaching.)
And I tell everyone I can possibly tell that if I hadn’t met Catherine H. Caine, I most certainly wouldn’t be in the kind of trouble I find myself in today. Her fingerprints are all over the rakes. She coined the term Diet Crusher. Yep, it’s that kind of party with Catherine Caine. Nailing you to your field.
But thanks to you, and your awesome reasons to eat when you’re not hungry, there’s a way out of this trouble for me. Exciting, yes?!
We all know all you need is just one good reason.
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Here are some of the great reasons I picked up to eat when you’re not physically hungry, based on my Lovely Readers’ feedback on Not So Fast There, Slim. Thank you to Kylie from Kylie Writes Here (does she ever), Anonymous from Finding Me, and Rachael from EFT Matters!
When you eat when you’re not hungry…
-You can anticipate the rush of handfuls of sugar into your system.
-You won’t need to let go of the seconds-long feeling of bliss before the self-hatred sets in.
-You’ll be able to eat things just because they’re there.
-You’ll be able to eat just because you feel obligated to.
-You won’t need to fill your time with something besides trying to change yourself.
-You won’t have to accept that your life might be just perfect the way it is. Right now.
-You can effectively distract yourself from your real issues by worrying about what you’re going to eat or what your body looks like.
-You won’t have to wait for hunger (which can be uncomfortable. Just sayin.)
-You won’t have to leave food on your plate.
-You won’t have to say no.
-You won’t have to allow yourself pleasure in eating again.
-You won’t have to accept that others will be uncomfortable, and that it’s ok for you to be comfortable when other’s aren’t. (Especially loved “others.)
-Dieting and thinking about dieting will no longer take up most of your thoughts, and then what?
- You won’t have to think about what to do when you’re bored.
- You won’t have to get off the “oh me toooo” train all your friends are on with their diets.
- You won’t have to trust my body to know how to do this.
- You don’t have to feel like you’re missing out.
Over to you! I’ll gather them up and come up with the Top 10 and be prepared for my Team’s incessant whining that they’ve had enough to eat!
KP, here is my list: (Which I wrote after reading your other post Not so Fast there Slim!
Why it’s not in my best interest to be in my naturally thin:
1. I won’t be able to eat when I’m bored. That could be disastrous, because we all know that having a party in your mouth chases away the boredom of being stuck in a rut, or having a lack of passion or interest in your work or life.
2. I won’t be able to use making dinner as an excuse to get out of being active. I might have to go hungry for a while, and maybe even exercise and come face to face with how out of shape I am. And who wants that shoved in their face every day. So the best way to ignore that is to ignore it harder and make even better dinners!
3. I won’t be able to use food a solvent to dissolve my problems. If I apply food more diligently, I’m sure my clothes will fit better, I’ll be more joyful, my business will become more profitable, and I’ll never feel frustrated, angry or sad again.
4. I won’t be able to graze through the cupboards, mindlessly eating until I finally find the one thing that satisfies me. Because of course, you know eating is not about nourishing your body, it’s about scratching an itch you can’t define.
5. I won’t be able to use food as a social lubricant. When you’re shy it helps to have food in your mouth at parties so you don’t actually have to talk to other people. And it is delightfully entertaining to talk about your favorite foods.
6. I won’t fit in with my friends anymore. I mean what would we possibly talk about if not bemoaning our mutual struggle with food.
7. I’ll have to buy a whole new wardrobe. That would be a BIG problem, because I hate shopping, and I would have to search out all new stores so I could buy skinny clothes.
8. I won’t be able to use food to procrastinate. I’ll have to actually tackle things I’d rather not do. But if I have an obligation to be in the kitchen cooking, well then, that is obviously a priority…
9. I won’t be able to enjoy the food porn channel any more. It would ruin my TV watching experience, then what the hell would I do for entertainment?
10. I won’t be able to have friends and family over for dinner anymore. Because if I’m all skinny I must be eating protein powder, fasting, and eating rice cakes and who ants to share that for dinner!
and one bonus . . .
11. I’d have to stop eating the food that other people prepare for me. It could be marital suicide to refuse to eat every scrap of something my husband made for me. I mean if I were to refuse to eat his undercooked eggs or the brownies he makes when HE has a craving, who would blame him for being angry for turning up my nose?
It’s all perfectly logical, right? Obviously I must dedicate myself to mindless consumption, over-eating and a diet of cookies and milk if I want to avoid the disastrous repercussions of being naturally thin.
Bless you KP for encouraging me to see the folly in being seduced by the nonsensical fantasy of having a naturally thin and healthy body!
Anne if I were within flogging distance of you I would flog you for making me wait for this brilliance, and then squeeze you so tightly for sharing it.
Dilemmas.
“I won’t be able to use food a solvent to dissolve my problems.”
“…eating is not about nourishing your body, it’s about scratching an itch you can’t define.”
“I won’t be able to use food as a social lubricant.”
It could be marital suicide to refuse to eat every scrap of something my husband made for me.
“It’s all perfectly logical, right? Obviously I must dedicate myself to mindless consumption, over-eating and a diet of cookies and milk if I want to avoid the disastrous repercussions of being naturally thin.”
Bowing so low and so vigorously I may require stitches,
KP
One more for you. I just spent an hour on the phone to the computer help line trying to install Parallels on my beloved Mac, so I could use a particular PC software program that I (plug my nose) need to use.
I feel like I intentionally invited a virus to live on my computer.
It was so stressful that while, I am waiting for it to set-up, download, copy and infect my computer, that I found my self standing in the kitchen vibrating for a food solution to the anxiety! I wasn’t even aware I was on my way there!
Shockingly unconscious, mindless behavior!
When I realized where I was, I had the nerve to ask myself if I was really hungry or not! I maybe kinda was in a little way, having had a small lunch. But because I waffled on the answer, I just walked out of the kitchen.
Don’t you think that if I want to avoid becoming naturally thin, I should have the foresight to consciously plan my over-consumption rather than just stumbling upon it?
Absolutely, Anne, you know I’m quite the fan of consciously planning over-consumption. Over-consumption doesn’t get enough credit for how effective it is in all manner of things.
I hope everything turned out with your computer!
All I can say about the computer is that if I had to work with on a PC system all the time, I’d now be a florist.
I’m sorry to be a contributor to this dangerous new phenomenon. My bad.
Your bad, indeed. Just read your latest post. See you haven’t decided to lower your standards for eloquence and candor. Or peace.
This proved to be way more enlightening that I expected–so I’ll add some very excellent reasons to the list:
I won’t be able to use food as a reward for doing things I don’t really want to do. (or other “good” things for which I believe I deserve points.
I won’t be able to use food as a prop to convince myself I have the life I want.
I won’t be able to earn points for avoiding “bad” foods or eating “good” foods.
I won’t be able to use being fat as an excuse for not getting what I want.
Evidently my life is a game with complicated rules and someone is keeping score. . .
Maureen, thank you for adding those most excellent reasons! Such great points about points, and the rules, and keeping score…
A complicated game indeed! I love this one: “I won’t be able to earn points for avoiding “bad” foods or eating “good” foods.”
I hate having to keep score on myself too. I’d so much rather be able to just live intuitively and not worry about ranking my eating success every day.