The One That Doesn’t Have To Do With Emotional Eating. (Except When It Does.)

Ever feel like your time is not your own?

With all of our time here being precious, here’s how to keep every single second of yours.

You don’t have to spend any of the time you’ve got worrying or being upset that you’re putting your own needs aside when you do something for someone else.

Everything you do meets a need that you have.

Everything you do, you do because you’ll regret it more, if you don’t. (What might be worth some of your time is trying to find an exception to this, and what it means to you if you can’t.)

Your needs are your only consideration as you pick and choose what you’re going to do, and for whom you’re going to do it.

If you had the means to give money to everyone in the world, you wouldn’t.

If somehow it became possible that you had time to volunteer for every cause or committee that is looking for volunteers, you wouldn’t.

If you could buy what everyone’s selling, you wouldn’t.

If it bothers you more to do it than to not do it, then you’re going to do it, but the operative words there are “if it bothers you.”

Doing for others is doing for yourself. Loving others is loving yourself.

You do what you want to do for the people you do it for out of respect for how you want to feel about yourself, because that’s who you answer to.

That is true for each and every one of us; it’s instinctual.

(And it is great and important news for the people who do get our money, and the committees and projects and people that get our time.)

Wanting to feel good about ourselves is what makes the world go round.

Did you already know this about your decisions, or if you didn’t, what difference would it make if you did?

And have you ever eaten something not because you’re physically hungry, but because you feel like you want to do something for yourself, because you’re feeling like everything else you do is for someone else?

Sandi Amorim’s Let Them Eat Cake

Tim Brownson’s How To Avoid Self-Sabotage