Yes, you’re on my mind again. I imagine by now you’re learning to live with it.
(I guess what else can you do, especially if you’ve heard the news that I’ve gotten my “President of Your Fan Club” cards printed up.)
OK maybe that was a little presumptuous of me. But, just a little.
(If you can think of a better way for me to associate myself with greatness, let me know. Until then why don’t we just let me do my job.)
Anyway, I think you realize that you’re going to have to take some ownership for me for being fascinated by you.
What with you being magical and all.
OK I’ll just say it, and then guess what, you’ll be thankful I’m around to deal with crowd control.
You can make thoughts disappear with your But.
Well, now that it’s out in the open, let’s all stand back and give you some room to do your freakishly amazing thing right here…
If only someone was betting me big money that you could do this.
(Don’t bother getting all excited. Me rolling in it would only mean to me that I would have more time to spend on you, not less. Now that’s exciting!)
Ready?
I‘ll say something…
“I love you.”
“You got a lot of answers right on the test.”
“Of course I want to spend time with you this weekend.”
Then you put your extraordinary power of your but into it.
“I love you.” BUT
“You got a lot of answers right on the test.” BUT
“Of course I want to spend time with you this weekend.” BUT
Voila!
With a wave of your magic but, all that came before it…POOF! disappeared…
“I want to lose weight, BUT
I can’t stop eating when I’m upset.”
“I wish I could stop dieting, BUT
I don’t trust myself.”
“It would be great to order what I like, BUT
I won’t be able to stop eating it.”
Whoa. Check you OUT!
Your But is so powerful that it can make what comes before it disappear AND make what comes after it reverberate.
In fact, it’s the only thing we can focus on.
Which is fantastic trick!! because you know we get what we focus on!!
Oh.
Uh to the effin oh.
Unless.
You use your powers for good…
to write your ass off.
(A huge thank you to my wonderful clients for allowing me to use excerpts from their Effa Diet journals.)
“I was so anxious I ate an entire bag of chips BUT
I didn’t eat the ice cream and I could have.
“I didn’t want to feel left out of the fun at the party so I ordered dessert. I wasn’t hungry so I was kicking myself, BUT
I chose what I really wanted, enjoyed it and I left some.”
(The lovely client who read this to me had told me when we started working together that her ordering dessert=her eating it all.
You can imagine how she felt to observe and note “left some” for her permanent record.
And then this, as she continued to but into her business… )
“I was at my sister’s for dinner, it was chaos with all of us and the kids. I didn’t taste much of my dinner and had been looking forward to my mom’s famous cheesecake BUT
I wasn’t hungry so I had - really tasted – a bite, and wrapped the rest for home.
The best part was that I could have eaten more, BUT
*I DID NOT WANT MORE.
(*She didn’t write that last sentence in all caps, but I didn’t know how else to convey her shock and awe. What a great moment.)
But who am I telling?
I think we all agree that that last but she wrote, that’s the biggest But of all. And the one we all want.
So my magical friend, we know you can make your thoughts disappear with your but.
Are you ready to make your butt disappear with your thoughts?
(Don’t worry, you’ll have enough left to get yourself around with.
)
Just remember, the bigger the but the better…and these 3 things…
#1 The more consistently you exercise your but, the sooner you will see the results you want.
My effadieters exercise their buts 3-5 times a day, preferably right after eating.
#2 To get the maximum results from your but exercises, you must work it with your fingers.
You already know your ability to recall and use information is better when you write it down; that’s why you go looking for that pen and paper when you really want to remember something.
Some of my clients cross out what came before the but, some erase it, some write what follows the but in larger letters than what came before.
You might use one or all of those, or you might find something else that you love that we’d love to hear about.
However you do it, keep wielding that magic wand of yours and always have that notebook ready, because…
#3 There’s always a but.
Even if today it’s “I ate 100 cookies, but I could have eaten 101.”
Keep writing. Keep wielding.
You know things about yourself that you don’t know you know, BUT WATCH, and you will see you’ve got the magic touch. Here and there and everywhere.
And as your biggest fan…
(Remember?! I’ve got the business cards to prove it?)
You know I’d love to hear all about what you’re seeing, too.
No buts about it.
















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Well, I’m so glad we’re talkin’ bout my BUT and not my butt! Love how your humour and playfulness open up a topic that (for most women I know) is vulnerable and sensitive.
So here are a few of mine…
I put off exercising because my knees were sore BUT I can always recommit!
I shouldn’t have eaten that brownie BUT I really enjoyed every bite and didn’t even feel guilty
I should have asked for more support BUT I can ask now and people love to support me!
So happy to have unloaded those BUTs.
So I see.
You are a committed “homeowner” who listens to and takes care of your body.
You eat what you like, enjoy it, and are satisfied with enough.
You can ask for support and receive it because you know people love to support you.
Not a but as far as the eye can see.
I would thank you for sharing, but…
Hahahaha. I tried. I got nothing there, either.
But I AM glad to have connected with you.
And what goes after the but, stays after the but.
I had 2 slices of strawberry jam on toast (with butter!) for breakfast when I should have opted for something sensible like porridge BUT it was very yummy and I didn’t eat a third slice, something I would ordinarily have been very keen to do!
Just started this today, writing it down and all
El, I wish you could have seen my face when I read what you wrote – you nailed the exercise – AND that it sounds like you’re going to keep writing. I’d LOVE to hear more of your experience as you exercise your But. Enjoy!