Hire Me FAQs

“How do I lose weight when food won’t quit calling me?” 

“How does this 6 week coaching process work?”

What I know for sure is that when it comes to your eating habits, you have reached an I Feel Like Shit About Them feeling in error.

The problem isn’t what you’ve been doing wrong. 

 The problem is what you’ve been doing right.

(And that it’s waaaay more than you have been misled to think by way too many cooks in your kitchen.)

Did you know that if you patch an eye, you will eventually go blind, even if the eye is mechanically normal?

That’s why I want you to look at the truth about yourself before you go blind to it from dieting and bingeing.

You’ve never physically exploded from eating.

You’ve never eaten an entire buffet.

Your problem is your chronic focus on how much cake you eat, instead of the much more interesting How Much You Leave.

If we’re being honest, if you weigh more than what you want to weigh, it’s because of all of the truth you’re leaving on the table.

And because you’re getting more of what you’re focusing on.  We’re going to change that focus.

“What can I expect?”

We know you already know what to do.  You want to feel like doing it.  You can expect to feel like that.

• We’re going to take the positive charge out of emotional eating.  (You only eat when you’re not hungry when it is compelling and important.  When not eating would make you more uncomfortable than eating does, no matter how much you tell yourself you’re going to regret it.)

• We’re going to expose, engage and strengthen your already present and active intuitive eating muscles.

• We’re going to stimulate the “eat when because you’re hungry, stop when you’re satisfied” perspective that you were born with, but that you haven’t noticed – or experienced routinely – in a long time.

• We’re going to expose you to and challenge the lies that are free circulating in your mind about you, and having their way with you.

• We’re going to shrink the importance of emotional eating the way gastric bypass shrinks the size of your stomach.

• We’re going to harnesses your natural desire to eat exactly what your body’s looking for when you’re hungry, and shrink your desire to eat emotionally to its original size.  When the ice cream says “but I have chocolate sprinkles,” you’re not all “Oooh! Then wait for me!”

Your emotional eating BFF only survives as long as it can keep you swallowing lies like those.

We’re going to cut off emotional eating lies-support.

You’re going to see that you already feel like doing what you know.  That you already are who you’ve been trying so hard to be.

“And then what will happen?”

• Your stomach’s conversations with you will be in normal conversational tone rather than in all caps.  “FOR THE LOVE OF GOD WE WERE DONE 5 COOKIES AGO!”

• It might break some hearts, but you will stop routinely eating over the objections of your body.

(photo credit:  MyKid)

• You’ll see that finding food unattractive unless you’re physically hungry for it comes naturally to you.

• What you call your trigger foods and trigger situations won’t have the same appeal to you.  Even if you’ve had the day from hell. Even during holiday stress. Even on your kids’ school break.

• More often than not, you’ll prefer to wait until you’re physically hungry to eat.  Even in situations when you eat because you’d feel socially uncomfortable not to.

• You can be around food and not get that terrible feeling that you are going to devour it all.

• More often than not, you’ll prefer to stop when you’re physically satisfied.  Even when Aunt Maggie’s Famous Somethingorother Pie comes out, and her eyes threaten to spill over with tears if you don’t have a piece, Sugar.

• More often than not, you’ll feel uncomfortable with the thought of eating when you’re not hungry.  Eating when you’re not hungry will be discomfiting and unsettling. It won’t make sense or feel right the way it does now.

• Your conditioned emotional eating response to food will be superseded by your natural “I can take it or leave it” response.

• You will be treated to how you were born feeling about food.  You won’t feel sick with dread about upcoming vacations or holidays or cruises and the “inevitable” weight gain that goes with them.

• You will no longer be afraid of a future – that you’ve been conditioned into – without your emotional eating BFF in it.

That your body has had enough will routinely be a good enough reason for you to stop eating because you won’t feel the benefits of emotional eating the way that you used to.

And so it won’t happen the way it used to.

You will return to and maintain your natural weight eating via your intuitive eating roots.  Those roots being eat what you want, however much you want of it, whenever you want it.

*Want* being the operative word.

When emotional eating loses its calling card, what you want to eat, when you want to eat, and how much you want to eat is more often than not in harmony with your body’s what, when, and how much.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have three results planned for you:

• You are comfortable with where your mind is – and is not – on the subject of emotional eating.
• Your body has started to follow.
• You are confident that both will continue.

“How will we work together?  And how do I know if this is right for me?”

• We will spend 6 weeks together, one-on-one, demagnetizing you from emotional eating and its considerable charms.  Keeping in mind that you are an intuitive eater at your core, we’ll work together to understand where you are and what motivates you to eat when you’re not hungry.

I missed yet another opportunity for an anxiety snack.  I went to the store and came out with just the things I went in for.  I got a sandwich for lunch because I was hungry. I’m eating at a normal pace, not a frenzied make-it-stop pace.  (Deanna Lohnes)

•  Disconnecting your emotional eating # starts with a questionnaire, and then a 60 minute chat via phone or Skype.  We’ll review your questionnaire, answer your questions, and talk about what is involved in the 6 weeks.

• Then you’ll begin your weight lifting, of course.  You’ll be spending approximately 15-20 minutes per day lifting your pen up and down and up and down and up and down on paper, lifting the weight of “I feel shitty about food and me” off of you.  (If you don’t have the 15 –20 minutes per day, or if you have a compelling and overriding interest in focusing on and talking about what you do that you don’t want more of, you’ll find this process won’t work for you.)

• It took time and continued exposure to “food is more than food” messages to get you routinely answer emotional eating’s call.  So naturally, disconnecting your # involves regular communication between your intuitive eater and you, and you and me.  We’ll set up a private space on Facebook for all of us to connect. (If you’re not on Facebook, we’ll communicate after our first call via e-mail.  I’m yours M-F and I often check in on the weekends.)  If you have no interest in pursuing a life-long relationship with your intuitive eater, or being involved in a 6 week one with me, you won’t be comfortable in this process.) 

Karen is hilarious, caring, and more attentive than most leaders I’ve encountered.  She has a knack for articulating shifts in perspective with humor and clarity.  The conversations in the “office” were consistently supportive, validating and helped me see myself more clearly.  (Christi Jarland)

Absolutely.   

You will get all of your money back after one week if you decide this is not for you, or after two weeks if it’s just me hanging out in our private space and I’m not providing a service beyond the mind-numbing twiddling my thumbs.  (Probably hard to believe I’ve found talking to myself a surprisingly ineffective coaching technique.)

I want you to eat what you want to eat, when you want to eat it, however much you want to eat it, and have your pants just fit.

In case that’s not just me–

I wish there was a way for every single human (especially women) on earth to learn what I have learned from you. I had always heard that I “had everything that I needed” and that “true power comes from within” but I never really got it, and I certainly didn’t see it in myself. You bring that to light in a way that is glaringly obvious and no way to deny. Previous to working with you I would consider myself a chronic self-hater and professional self-sabotager, now I can actually see that I am a chronic self-lover.   (Ashley Inzer)